Stop Reading Minds—Start Asking Better Questions

How clarity saves relationships at work and beyond

Kamy Charles

9/16/20251 min read

a poster with a brain map of a brain
a poster with a brain map of a brain

In workplaces everywhere, conflict often arises not because people have bad intentions—but because they make assumptions.

We assume we know what someone else is thinking.

We assume their tone in an email means frustration.

We assume they understand our priorities without us ever saying them out loud.

But assumptions build walls. Clarity builds bridges.

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Why We Default to Assumptions

Humans are wired to fill in the gaps. When we don’t have all the information, our brains create stories to make sense of what’s happening. The problem? Those stories are often wrong.

At work, this shows up as:

Reading between the lines of every email.

Avoiding conversations because we think we know the outcome.

Expecting people to “just know” what we need.

These habits create tension, silence collaboration, and damage trust.

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The Power of Better Questions

Strong workplace relationships don’t require mind reading. They require clarity—and clarity comes from asking better questions:

“What do you need from me right now?”

“Can you clarify your priority for this project?”

“How are you feeling about this decision?”

Questions replace assumptions with understanding. They prevent small miscommunications from becoming big conflicts.

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How to Build a Culture of Clarity

At Opus Opportunities, we help organizations create communication habits that improve collaboration and reduce friction. Here’s what works:

1. Normalize Curiosity → Make it safe to ask questions without fear of judgment.

2. Practice Active Listening → Don’t just ask—pay attention to the answers.

3. Check Assumptions Out Loud → Replace “I thought you meant…” with “Can you confirm I understood this correctly?”

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Final Thought

You can’t read minds—but you can build trust. And trust comes from choosing clarity over assumptions, every time.